The idea of closure is a myth.
We think it’s an explanation,
an apology,
a reason why things fell apart.
We imagine a conversation
Where every question is answered.
But even then
The hurt lingers,
The confusion stays.
And yes, it’s human to crave closure.
It’s human to want it tied up neatly,
to stop replaying every action,
every word,
every silence,
searching for what went wrong.
But sometimes the apology never comes.
The reason never arrives.
And closure,
closure becomes nothing more
Than a cycle you get stuck in.
Maybe closure isn’t an answer at all.
Maybe closure is accepting without explanation.
Maybe it’s whispering to yourself:
This happened.
I can’t control it.
But I can heal.
Healing isn’t kind.
It doesn’t sweep away the pain.
It doesn’t move in straight lines.
But healing is honest and slow, eventually, it comes.
So no
You don’t need closure.
You need acceptance.
You need permission to hurt,
without it having to make sense.
Because healing doesn’t begin
When they give you a reason why.
Healing begins, when you decide your hurt matters,
And you’re ready to move on.
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I'm not sure I've ever really had an issue with closure.
When something happens it happens. When something stops happening it's closed. Period!
Dwelling on what happened, isn't looking for closure it's looking for a way to change it, to make it happen differently or not to have happened at all.
Just realize things happen, life is a constant cycle of events.
We are here to gain wisdom...
Wisdom is experiencing something
Learning from that experience
and Applying what you learned.
There's no need for redundancy, to seek explanations, only the knowledge gained from each experience (happening).
Tega, your writing is provocative and thought enhancing... stay the course.
Tega, thank you for these lines. I really felt it — like you lifted off the duty to look for answers where there aren’t any. Closure is a myth, and yet we keep living as if we have to force everything into a full stop. Sometimes the only honest thing is to admit: “it hurts, period.” I resonated so much with where you wrote: “healing begins when your pain matters.” Yes. Exactly that.