I'm not sure I've ever really had an issue with closure.
When something happens it happens. When something stops happening it's closed. Period!
Dwelling on what happened, isn't looking for closure it's looking for a way to change it, to make it happen differently or not to have happened at all.
Just realize things happen, life is a constant cycle of events.
We are here to gain wisdom...
Wisdom is experiencing something
Learning from that experience
and Applying what you learned.
There's no need for redundancy, to seek explanations, only the knowledge gained from each experience (happening).
Tega, your writing is provocative and thought enhancing... stay the course.
Tega, thank you for these lines. I really felt it — like you lifted off the duty to look for answers where there aren’t any. Closure is a myth, and yet we keep living as if we have to force everything into a full stop. Sometimes the only honest thing is to admit: “it hurts, period.” I resonated so much with where you wrote: “healing begins when your pain matters.” Yes. Exactly that.
Closure is emotional conclusion in which acceptance is a means of achieving but often difficult to attain so people default to other people in search for answers to help achieve it.
I do agree that people should stop seeking answer from others...
This isn’t just about closure; it’s about dismantling the story that healing waits on someone else’s apology. You’re not offering comfort — you’re handing readers a scalpel. It hurts, but it’s honest. Sometimes the only closure is the decision to stop waiting for it.
I'm not sure I've ever really had an issue with closure.
When something happens it happens. When something stops happening it's closed. Period!
Dwelling on what happened, isn't looking for closure it's looking for a way to change it, to make it happen differently or not to have happened at all.
Just realize things happen, life is a constant cycle of events.
We are here to gain wisdom...
Wisdom is experiencing something
Learning from that experience
and Applying what you learned.
There's no need for redundancy, to seek explanations, only the knowledge gained from each experience (happening).
Tega, your writing is provocative and thought enhancing... stay the course.
Tega, thank you for these lines. I really felt it — like you lifted off the duty to look for answers where there aren’t any. Closure is a myth, and yet we keep living as if we have to force everything into a full stop. Sometimes the only honest thing is to admit: “it hurts, period.” I resonated so much with where you wrote: “healing begins when your pain matters.” Yes. Exactly that.
Thank you for your nice words
Your piece made me think about how much of our suffering comes from demanding answers that may never come
Actually
Isn't acceptance closure too?
Closure is emotional conclusion in which acceptance is a means of achieving but often difficult to attain so people default to other people in search for answers to help achieve it.
I do agree that people should stop seeking answer from others...
Actually
That makes sense
Most people get closure by searching for answers in other people
This isn’t just about closure; it’s about dismantling the story that healing waits on someone else’s apology. You’re not offering comfort — you’re handing readers a scalpel. It hurts, but it’s honest. Sometimes the only closure is the decision to stop waiting for it.